Comments on: Boobs and involuntary friends

By: Ross

Ross — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 13:42:17 +0000

Well I’m teaching a class of adult students and one of the female students who has a beautiful figure and big gorgeous breasts comes into class wearing tight skimpy tops and tight pants which emphasize her breasts and her figure. She often asks me over to her desk with a question. And she gave me a present. She’s friendly to me and comes up to my desk to ask something . She must know that it really turns me on. Or is she just being friendly – I don’t know why she dresses like that in my class. I want her to get her exams so she can get into university. I want to focus on her brains rather than her boobs but shes making it difficult for me to concentrate with those boobs in my face. Ladies what do you think?
Ross

By: adowling

adowling — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 02:27:34 +0000

@Krista – I was asked the same thing during the interview for my job. You just have to be aware of who you are talking to and what you can and cannot share.

@HRD – You and me, on the same page.

@Charles @HRMinion – My very best friend is a former coworker. I do feel like I can be more open with her now that I dont have a censor what I’m saying. I remember the old days of not being in HR and joining my coworkers around the water cooler to gossip; now I just keep my mouth shut and listen.

By: HR Minion

HR Minion — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 23:54:13 +0000

You can have friends at work, I still keep in touch with a couple of former co-workers because we clicked at work. Of course, it is easier to be more open with them now that we no longer work together. It’s a fine line.

By: Charles Barragan

Charles Barragan — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:34:14 +0000

I agree with TheHRD. My best friends, the ones I can be truly honest with, are outside the workplace. My online presence reflects that. Many professional colleagues are “LinkedIn” with me, but no one I directly work with or under will ever be my Facebook friends, where I tend to post honestly and frankly about all things, including the workplace. If I wasn’t in HR I’d probably worry less about profesional boundaries, since we spend a quarter of our lifes in the workplace. But so far my approach works for me

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By: TheHRD

TheHRD — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:05:36 +0000

If I remember rightly, the Gallup approach to employee engagement includes a question along the lines of “I have a best friend at work” which I always thought slightly strange. But working in HR I think it sometimes even harder as you need to keep a stricter line between your professional and your personal.

I have work friends. They are friends but within certain constraints. My true friends could never be at work.

By: Krista Francis

Krista Francis — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:24:53 +0000

Hmmm, interesting post. I’m not sure our work friends are any more involuntary than our high school friends, college friends, softball team friends, neighbors, play group mom friends, or hey, even Twitter friends, for that matter!

We meet our friends a myriad of ways, but regardless of the circumstances, only time will tell whether each person will become a ‘voluntary’ friend once those circumstances have changed.

Just a thought.

In a related vein, is it harder to have close friendships at the office when you work in HR?